Procrastination: How to keep it at bay

Procrastination: The heading says “keep it at bay” rather than “beat it” because it’s not going to go away altogether. Not immediately anyway. It’s like that family member you really don’t like. He or she is always going to be family; they’re there for the long haul! But there are things you can do to minimise how much time you spend together.

It’s the same with procrastination.

Not everyone has big issues with procrastination, though according to some of the research I read a whopping 20% of the population make it their lifestyle. That’s scary.

A member of our Facebook group “Get It Done” said in a post today that she would “like to stop procrastinating as much and find a source of motivation for when I’m finding it hard to stay on track.” How many of us can relate to that?

It’s possible to put procrastination in its place and keep it there. But it does take some effort, and since effort is usually what we’re trying to avoid in the first place when we procrastinate, this seems like one big unmanageable paradox!

So what can we do about it?

The first thing we have to do if we want to put procrastination in its place is understand exactly what’s going on when we’re affected by it. There’s a great video on this that I discovered in my research on the topic; it’s short (two minutes long), simple and though it’s a bit fuzzy to look at, I think it helps to clarify what we’re dealing with when we’re tempted to avoid what we really “should” be doing, or to “put it on the end of the long finger” as the Irish say.

So without further ado, here is the video …

Video: What causes procrastination?

OK so that puts the issue in a little bit of perspective for those of us who have been battling this thing for decades without truly understanding it or worse, believing that we’re just horribly lazy. Now we just have to remember that it’s not our fault, we really can’t help it and we just have to get used to it, right?

Wrong. The good news is there is something you can do about it and even better, it only takes a few minutes daily to do it.

As I said above, I spent some time researching the topic before I started this post today. I discovered there are billions of suggestions and solutions out there on the topic of beating procrastination. It’s quite overwhelming. And also confusing.

One thing I’ve learned at Law School is that “you know when you’ve done enough research when you keep coming back to the same source”. In other words there will be a recurring “theme” that tells you that you’re on the right track.

In researching procrastination, the theme that kept recurring in the search for an answer was mindfulness meditation. There were heaps of other great themes I thought,  but the meditation theme was the one that resonated with me. Watch the three minute video below (it’s better quality than the one above) to see what I mean …

Video: Procrastination and how to control it. 

But how do I meditate? is a question I hear quite frequently. Not only that but there is sometimes great resistance to the idea of meditation based on the “no time to spare” excuse. And let’s be honest – it is an excuse.

There is a perception out there that meditation is weird, time-consuming, difficult to “do” or requires special training. Let’s bust some of these pre-conceived ideas right now. In this final video (which has the potential to change your life or at least increase you brain-power!) you’ll learn how to meditate. Yes, it’s that easy. See for yourself! …

Video: Learn to meditate now!

The only piece of advice I would add to the above video is that you don’t have to sit on the floor to practice meditation. A firm chair that allows you to keep your back straight and feet flat on the floor is absolutely fine.

Marie Forleo said “There are 1440 minutes in a day. They’ll all go better if you take 10 of them to meditate.” This is very manageable.

You can download Marie’s 10 minute meditation on here blog page here. I used it every day when I started meditating and can highly recommend it if you’re a beginner.

So there you have it. Procrastination looks different now, right?

Now go do that thing you’ve been avoiding for hours – or if your like I used to be – for most of your life.

Seona xx seona@ms50plus.com

 

Getting Stuff Done: Need Help?

GID50plusHow frustrating is it when you reach the end of another week and haven’t got everything done that you planned to do, or even half of it? I’m finding this is happening with me all the time at the moment; between my studies and my artistic aspirations I feel like I’m not getting anywhere. So much so that I’ve decided to do something radical about it.

I’m setting up a “Get It Done” group for those of you in the same situation; feeling like nothing is getting done and you’re getting nowhere very fast! If you’re looking for moral support and practical tips on getting done what you want to do, go to Get It Done and join the group!

In addition to the FB Group I’ll also post tips here on the blog – look out for the yellow “Get It Done” pic or see under “Categories”.

You’re probably getting plenty of things done already. But maybe you find that you are managing the absolute necessities only, with no time, energy or motivation to start or continue the projects that are closest to your heart.

Hopefully, some of the strategies you find here on the blog or over at the FB group will help.

Meantime, I’m deferring my law degree for 6 months (I’m half way through it) to honour my own aspirations …

Last month the case that I brought to court against the Nurses Registration Board (re the event that ended my nursing career) finally finished, but the result didn’t satisfy my desire to have the story of the injustice heard by others, especially others who might benefit from it. So I’m committing to write a book about it. Six months probably won’t be enough time, but it will get it well off the ground and into the flow of my daily life by then I hope. With your help of course!

In leading the “Get It Done” group I will have to be accountable not only to myself, but to others in the group who rely on the support to assist them in getting their own thing done, whatever that may be; new business, creative venture or dream project.

My ultimate dream is to be in a position to provide  great quality legal advice at a greatly reduced cost to women who have experienced personal  injustice or adversity. So I will need to have another income stream under my belt to subsidise my legal venture. The book (and it’s sibling project) will be of help in that respect.

You need to have an “ultimate dream” of your own that you can see and believe in so that you can act on it.

This TEDx talk will get you started.

Seona xx

Picture Your Story

My_BusWhy did I choose to feature the interior of a motorhome as the header picture of my blog? Because it’s part of my story, and this blog is about stories; yours and mine.

Your story matters. Picture it.

My picture invokes a dream I have; to own a motorhome and travel around Australia, holding workshops for women who need assistance with getting through adversity and telling their stories. As a solicitor I’ll be in a unique position to offer practical advice. That qualification, combined with my professional health, coaching and creative qualifications will, I hope, result in a unique package that has the potential to contribute great value to those who attend.

This is all in the future of course –  I’m only half way through my Bachelor of Laws – but it’s still a part of my story because I live it in my daily life; visualising, relishing the details in my mind, feeling the emotions – excitement, fulfilment, adventure, connection –  asking questions; how will the experience benefit those who attend my workshops? How will I do it? What will be my strengths?

The picture of the bus is the hook. It’s a vibrant visual connection to these future experiences. It keeps the dream alive in my mind, pulls me forward to the experience that I am manifesting for myself, brings my story to life.

Do you have a picture that pulls you towards your story?

Go to Pinterest, use the search box to search themes, see what resonates with you and where it leads your imagination. Save the picture. Make sure you see it every day.

Picture your story …

Have fun!

 

 

Personal Power (and my old heart!)

womans heartWhat to do when you’re confronted unexpectedly with disrespect, spite and angry abuse …
(1) Stay Calm …
(2) Remember – “We don’t see the world as it is, we see it as we are” (Anais Nin) …
(3) Ask yourself, “At what level am I abusing and disrespecting myself, why, and what needs to be done about it?” …
(4) When you have an answer that resonates with your heart, act immediately. Especially if that answer scares the pants off you or stretches your comfort zone to the point of great DIScomfort.

In doing the above, know that you have aligned a core value with your authentic self, and feel the resultant power

Share your Story

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What’s your worst fear?

Is it that you might leave this planet without having shared the story of who you are and what you have achieved?

Do you have a story that you just know would inspire others?

I know you do.

But are you struggling with how (or even whether) to share your story?

One of my most enduring fears in life is the idea of passing on without having contributed to the world in the form of story; my own and those of other people.

We want to feel that we have something to give, that we can make a difference no matter how small – that we matter, at least to ourselves and those we love.

We want to feel a sense of creative contribution, of connection to others.

In my experience one of the most fulfilling ways of achieving these ideals of connection and contribution is through story.

But there seem to be so many blockages in the way;

  • What format should I use to tell my story?
  • Where am I going to find the time?
  • How much should I tell and what should I leave out?
  • Who really wants to hear my story anyway?
  • No-one knows me – why would they care?
  • Who do I think I am?
  • Get over it and get on with life.

These are all “excuses” for staying in your comfort zone. Stuff that.

Our stories are unique. They are intimately connected to our self esteem and personal wellbeing. Sharing them with others can be healing for us and for them.

So why would we withhold that?

Here is my brief story.

What’s yours?

Seona xx seona@ms50plus.com